Put Yourself First
It’s ok to make yourself a priority. It’s not selfish. True self care is made up of those things you do as part of your daily practice that sustain your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
Create boundaries that honor your energy. Say “no” to commitments that feel draining or unnecessary. Remember, “no” is a complete sentence. Protect your time and space like they’re the most valuable gifts you can give yourself—because they are. You are showing yourself and others that you have your priorities straight. Instead of staying late at work or going out for drinks afterward, you can choose to go home to your family. And if you have had a long day as a stay at home Mom, it’s ok to ask for some help so you can go for a walk, or pour yourself a tub to relax and unwind, or whatever you need at that time. It is your prerogative to do just that. If it stretches you too thin, or it doesn't align with your priorities, it's okay to say No.
Schedule moments of intentional self-care. Add them to your calendar like you would a meeting or appointment. Whether it’s 15 minutes of journaling, a quiet cup of tea in the morning, or an hour-long yoga class, these pockets of time allow you to recharge. Take a moment and ask yourself: “What do I need to feel my best?” Then, give yourself permission to pursue it. You deserve the same love and care you give to everyone else.
Regular check-ups are non-negotiable. They are as crucial to your success as any business strategy meeting. Similarly, taking care of your mental health is paramount. Some people schedule their annual checkups on their birthdays or they go for their mammograms with a friend so it’s more fun. When I was working a 9-5 job, I scheduled health days so I could go to 2 or 3 appointments in one day. Your relationship with yourself is the longest one you will have in your life. Do whatever it takes “because you’re worth it,” and I mean that. It’s not just a clever tagline.
Recognize that your feelings matter and take action to address them. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Tired? Unable to focus? When you tune in, you can respond to your needs with compassion. Whether you need rest or stimulation, take care of yourself accordingly. A few minutes of quiet time can change your whole outlook - so can a few minutes of strength training or dance fitness. Movement and music can really boost your mood. Make sure you listen to your body and mind.
Make a commitment to taking care of yourself, just like you do for others. Recognize that by taking care of your well-being, you are well equipped to care for those around you without compromising what’s important to you. You’re creating a ripple effect of positivity in the lives of those around you by taking time for yourself. When you feel grounded and fulfilled, you have more to give—whether it’s love, attention, or support. It’s time to change your tune because you show up better for others when you put yourself first. It’s win-win for everyone!
